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Fri, 01 Nov 2024 01:15:17 GMT

🧵Grrrrrrr.

My daughter and her caregiver went trick or treating in our neighborhood. When they approached one house that just put a bowl out, two girls were there and the older girl tried to stop them from taking candy and then proceeded to tell Morgan she liked her double chin. Mo didn't understand the insult but her caregiver certainly did.

I know the neighbors well enough that it shocked me. Their kids just don't seem like they would do such a thing, but after our caregiver pointed out the house and told us what costumes the girls were wearing, I texted the neighbor. I didn't make accusations, just asked who was watching the candy bowl at their house and then told her what happened.

Turns out it wasn't their daughter, but the daughter's friend who came over to trick or treat in our neighborhood. Neighbor lady was LIVID that this happened. She ripped into the girls parents and the girl and told her to march over here and apologize. Then she apologized to me at least three times, even though it wasn't her fault. Soon the girl and her dad were on my front doorstep, the girl bawling and the dad feeling awful and apologizing profusely. He got her to stop crying long enough to apologize to me as well.

On one hand I'm glad that Mo couldn't understand the insult, but at the same time it crushes my soul knowing that she will deal with this shit for the rest of her life and she will need someone we can trust with her at all times. 😥

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 01:15:12 GMT

🧵Grrrrrrr.

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 19:56:52 GMT

🧵I work on a college campus. Today there was some loud shrieks coming from the other end of my 4th floor hallway - I couldn't tell if it was someone needing help or just noisy kids but it was getting pretty loud so I took a walk. I was a little cranky about it since it's Monday (ick) and I'm trying to get some things done on a deadline. At the stairwell I find one of our university student's, and a young girl probably 6 or 7. The young girl has some difficulty speaking and some physical challenges and is the source of the noise. I ask the student if everything is OK, she lets me know they are with the campus children's learning lab and while the rest of the students are in a classroom, this young lady needed time away from them. Concerned, the student asks me "do we need to leave?". I smiled and said "Oh no, I was just concerned something was wrong. It's fine - I have a daughter with some challenges too, I get it." The young girl looks at me, and as she's going up and down the stairs, points to the stairs and then looks at me again. "She wants you to go down the stairs with her." the student tells me, with a laugh. Ok, sure - so I go down the stairs. The girl giggles, and points for me to keep going. So I do - she stays on the 4th floor while I go down to the 3rd. She looses sight of me and I duck around the corner and catch the elevator back up the 4th floor. Now I come around from behind her and she's baffled as to how I appeared behind her, but she's smiling and giggling. She points at the stairs again, so I go downstairs again and back up the elevator. The girl just grins and squeals, which makes me laugh. I excuse myself as I really do have to get some things finished, and the girl continues to go up and down the stairs, but with fewer shrieks now.

That young lady doesn't know it, but she helped me center myself today. I needed to be put in my place, and she did just that. Sometimes, we can't see the forest through all those damn trees. Sometimes, we need to take 5 minutes and be silly for the sake of silliness. And sometimes, we just need a gentle nudge from an unexpected source to change how we see things, and more importantly how we react to things. Thank you, little friend.

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 19:54:10 GMT

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I work on a college campus. Today there was some loud shrieks coming from the other end of my 4th floor hallway - I couldn't tell if it was someone needing help or just noisy kids but it was getting pretty loud so I took a walk. I was a little cranky about it since it's Monday (ick) and I'm trying to get some things done on a deadline. At the stairwell I find one of our university student's, and a young girl probably 6 or 7. The young girl has some difficulty speaking and some physical challenges and is the source of the noise. I ask the student if everything is OK, she lets me know they are with the campus children's learning lab and while the rest of the students are in a classroom, this young lady needed time away from them. Concerned, the student asks me "do we need to leave?". I smiled and said "Oh no, I was just concerned something was wrong. It's fine - I have a daughter with some challenges too, I get it." The young girl looks at me, and as she's going up and down the stairs, points to the stairs and then looks at me again. "She wants you to go down the stairs with her." the student tells me, with a laugh. Ok, sure - so I go down the stairs. The girl giggles, and points for me to keep going. So I do - she stays on the 4th floor while I go down to the 3rd. She looses sight of me and I duck around the corner and catch the elevator back up the 4th floor. Now I come around from behind her and she's baffled as to how I appeared behind her, but she's smiling and giggling. She points at the stairs again, so I go downstairs again and back up the elevator. The girl just grins and squeals, which makes me laugh. I excuse myself as I really do have to get some things finished, and the girl continues to go up and down the stairs, but with fewer shrieks now.